We are in week 7 of bootcamp, which can be both an exciting and really scary time for those about to graduate (although I prefer commencement
.) You’re hopefully beginning the next step of your journey rather than picking up where you left off 6 1/2ish week ago.
You have developed new habits and the biggest challenge is how to continue those past day 56. To the timely rescue is Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of our Everyday Lives by Gretchen Rubin. In one of the most insightful reads I’ve stumbled across in a while, she nails the four motivation personality types that determine how YOU will respond to post-bootcamp life.
According to Ms. Rubin, motivation and developing of habits is based largely on how we respond to expectations - internal (Questioners), external (Obligers), both (Upholders) or neither (Rebels.)
You know how sometimes you do stuff just because you think it’s expected? Then you are not a questioner. Questioners only form habits if they are convinced of their usefulness or benefits of the habit. You are the people who want to know ‘why’ this and ‘why not’ that. And that’s OK - as long as the person imparting the information gives a compelling reason why or why not. Otherwise you’re calling shenanigans.
Obligers will roll through boot camp because they committed to do it, often signing up with a friend or spouse. They may hate or love it, but they will get up for 6ams, dutifully submit usually perfect logs nightly, but absent some intense connection post-bootcamp, are just as likely never to step in the door again. They do things because someone else is expecting them to or counting on them, but aren’t particularly self-motivated.
Upholders (that’s me!) are influenced by both their own expectations of themselves, and by those of others. They believe in rules and processes and can be kinda fuddy duddies, but they thrive on social connections and have a dual support in developing habits, so even if the spousal unit rolls over and doesn’t want to go to class, they will.
Finally, we have rebels. Rebels probably aren’t going to send their food logs or fitness reports. They will frequently be the hardest working person in class because that’s what they CHOOSE, but if a hamburger shows up, legal cheat meal be darned. Rebels _can_ use their contrarian nature to best effect by focusing on those who think they’re going to peter out, (“I’ll show THEM!”)
I’m guessing you can tell right off the bat what your expectation style is, but just in case :).
Obligers and questioners make up by far the largest portion of the population, with upholders and rebels taking their respective places at the opposite tail ends of the bell curve. Upholders will take care of themselves, and rebels will probably just do the opposite of what you encourage them to, so the biggest benefit we can give is focusing our energies on those first two categories of obligers and questioners.
Obligers - consider a 3P group for ongoing accountability OR tag team with a buddy you’ve met for a regular weekly class meetup. A trio is even better so you’ve got a redundant system in place in case your friend is NOT an obliger :D.
Questioners - you of ALL people need to set up your two week post-bootcamp weigh-in checkpoint, like NOW. You need hard numbers to see what works and what doesn’t as you continue your transformation. Get those nagging WHY and WHY NOTS answered to your satisfaction. Then weigh in and see for yourself.
Keep rocking it and plan NOW for your “what’s next” based on your personality and what’s most likely to motivate YOU.
All the best,
Marcey
Coach Marcey Tidwell is started as a client with NGPT in January 2011. Joining the team as an accountability coach, she wears many hats in assisting the Meltdown Nation! Nurse Marcey by day, she brings a wealth of knowledge the program!