Disclaimer: This is NOT based on a specific person but rather a ‘composite character’ of a very common situation. Like I said last week - if you’re seeing yourself in this, we need to talk, because we CAN do something about it.
She started out ON FIRE.
She was rocking it - exercising, nailing the food plan like her life depended on it. She had progress to make but had momentum out the wazoo.
Then one day something happened. Not necessarily one day, but slowly, steadily - it was like a car running out of gas. A person who had been confident in her transformation was suddenly questioning it and herself.
WTH?
Headwork is a big part of my coaching style at NGPT. There are some people who are overweight simply because they lack the knowledge of how to eat properly, and modern dietary advice that preaches low fat and high carb has unsurprisingly failed them. No issues, just lack of a plan. Those people can take the plan, rock it and never look back.
What about the other folks? And not just women.
In the next few posts, I’d like to discuss what, in my experience and opinion, happens when people just kind of “fizzle.”
Number one reason is that other ‘F’ word. FEAR.
Weight can act as a disguise. A shell to cover up YOU. Unfair assumptions are made all the time about people of all sizes. She must be anorexic. He must be lazy or undisciplined. People may expect less out of you. You may expect less out of yourself.
Ask yourself - is it possible that I FEAR losing this significant weight? In some ways, it protects you. You can ignore facing other issues in your life - things that are OVERDUE for change because there is this other thing to deal with. As long as _that_ exists, we don’t have to face that we are stagnating in our jobs, or we are wanting to get married and have children, or we’re in a bad relationship but it’s too scary to get out, or (insert your personal bugaboo here.)
If you are losing your steam, cheating more, moving less, and missing your accountability checkpoints, dare to look at what you’re scared of ahead. There’s a reason you’re putting on the brakes. _Only_ once you realize what you’re trying to avoid can you weigh the value of that potentially awesome future against your fear of change.
Coach Marcey Tidwell is started as a client with NGPT in January 2011. Joining the team as an accountability coach, she wears many hats in assisting the Meltdown Nation! Nurse Marcey by day, she brings a wealth of knowledge the program!
